“You Can Do It if You Believe You Can!”
We have all heard this in one form or fashion over the years. Some decide they do believe it and go on to success. Others say they believe and they are going to get right on it
…just… as soon as… fill in the blank of whatever excuses we have all heard and made over the years.
Telling me or someone else you believe you can achieve does you exactly no good, other than it is probably good for you to hear the words coming out of your own mouth.
Self-Confidence and the Skeptic
If you have all this self-confidence you claim to have, why are you not stepping up?
To address a different segment of readers, if you know you have no self-confidence do you know why? Why is it you see folks you know are not as smart as you succeed?
I think I figured it out.
It occurs to me that folks with no self-confidence are their own worst skeptics. Somewhere along the line someone consistently doubted your ability to succeed. Even when you did, the huffy commentator opined, it was lucky you did not kill yourself or embarrass yourself and the family to no end.
What is it you are afraid of?
I don’t exclude myself from this question. I could not figure out what would paralyze me and wash from my brain all those so wonderful plans of action I would come up with while in the throes of being just as miserable at work as a hapless canine who just missed making it into the building door by inches during one of those hard lake effect snow storms I read about.
Seriously, I have made it home and been so tired but also frustrated because I could not keep my eyes open long enough to do anything and anyways, I could not remember all the pieces of the plan of action.
I did figure it out.
Six Basic Fears
The six basic fears are:
- The fear of Poverty
- The fear of Old Age
- The fear of Criticism
- The fear of the Loss of Love of Someone
- The fear of Ill Health
- The fear of Death
Why is it if you are so afraid of being in poverty you don’t just strike out and work until the sun comes up, drive to work, stagger back in the front door and work until the sun comes up again and do it until you are rich?
I have known two fellows who did that and they got it right in a year or less and started living the boo yee tuh ful life of Riley.
So, why not you? I haven’t a clue except to say that in my case I really did hate looking stupid to other people. Poverty was not the fear that was holding me back, it was the fear of criticism. Then something my sweet wife said got into my brain and worked its way down into the basement where those little @#$%ers Stephen King is always jawing about work away from the light of day.
She said, “What do you care what they say or think. They don’t pay our bills. It is just like arguing with a nut on the road. It resolves nothing and puts no money in your pocket.”
I paraphrased, but she was right.
Guard Your Mind; Only Accept Advice From Those Qualified To Give It1
“oh, that’ll never work,” says a friend. At which point you meekly surrender all your dreams and go back to whatever it is that feeds you but makes you miserable.
That sounds more like a drug habit than a job now as I look at what I just wrote. Anyhooo….
Look where you friend who just offered you his grand and oh, so sophisticated opinion on your dream lives!
Most likely he ain’t living your dream, either. Why would you take advice or correction from another loser? I don’t mean that to be harsh; I just mean why would you take advice on what you want to do from someone who is incapable of doing what you want to do?
Find Your Fear
Work you way through what it is you are really afraid of so that you can put it in context. Once you figure out that fulfilling your dreams of building a healthy business online will relieve you of most of what you are afraid of you just might catch on fire and start putting in the work.
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1 Stay tuned for an in depth article on why guarding your mind is so important.